You’ve been seeing someone new, and things seem to be going well—until they start pulling away.
❌ They take hours (or days) to respond to texts.
❌ They cancel plans last minute, saying they’re “busy.”
❌ They act interested one moment and distant the next.
You overanalyze every interaction, replaying conversations in your head, wondering:
👉 “Did I do something wrong?”
👉 “Are they losing interest, or am I just overthinking?”
👉 “Should I walk away, or am I expecting too much?”
And then you hear the advice that’s supposed to be your wake-up call:
💬 “If they wanted to, they would.”
The idea is simple—if someone truly cared, they would make the effort. They would text, plan dates, and prioritize you without hesitation.
It sounds empowering, right? Like you should just move on.
But in reality, this advice is an oversimplification that leaves you feeling worse, not better.
It doesn’t explain why people send mixed signals.
It doesn’t account for emotional baggage, attachment styles, or subconscious fears.
And it definitely doesn’t tell you what to do next.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a cycle of confusion, self-doubt, and frustration when dating, keep reading—because the truth is far more nuanced than this one-size-fits-all advice.
The Desired Outcome: Clarity, Confidence, and Emotional Empowerment
Imagine how different dating would feel if you could:
💖 Decode mixed signals with ease, instead of second-guessing yourself.
💖 Recognize when someone is emotionally unavailable (before you get attached).
💖 Stop internalizing someone else’s inconsistency as a reflection of your worth.
💖 Move forward with confidence—whether that means setting boundaries or giving them space to show up.
The goal isn’t to chase someone or waste energy trying to “make” them choose you.
The goal is to understand what’s really happening beneath the surface—so you can make empowered choices that honor YOU.
The Truth: Why ‘If They Wanted To, They Would’ Is Not Always True
🔹 1. People Have Unconscious Blocks That Sabotage Connection
Just because someone wants to pursue a relationship doesn’t mean they know how.
💭 Maybe they have anxious-avoidant tendencies—they crave connection but pull away when things feel too close.
💭 Maybe they’ve been hurt before and are afraid of getting emotionally invested.
💭 Maybe they struggle with low self-worth and don’t believe they deserve love.
In short: Attraction and effort don’t always align when someone has unresolved emotional baggage.
🔹 2. Attachment Styles Play a Huge Role
Not everyone was raised to believe that love is safe, consistent, and secure.
- Someone with a secure attachment style will naturally prioritize and pursue you in a healthy way.
- Someone with an avoidant attachment style might genuinely like you, but emotional intimacy feels suffocating—so they pull away.
- Someone with an anxious attachment style might send mixed signals because they’re terrified of rejection but don’t want to lose you either.
When you don’t understand these patterns, it’s easy to take their behavior personally—when in reality, it has more to do with their subconscious conditioning than their feelings for you.
🔹 3. Not Everyone Communicates Love the Same Way
Some people express affection through words, while others show it through actions.
Some prioritize quality time, while others express love through physical touch or small gestures.
If someone isn’t showing up in the way you expect, it doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t care—it might just mean they have a different way of expressing it.
🔹 4. Your Subconscious Mind May Be Attracting the Wrong People
One hard truth? We attract what we subconsciously believe we deserve.
If you have unresolved wounds around love and self-worth, your subconscious mind will keep pulling you toward relationships that reinforce those beliefs.
🧠 If deep down you believe “love has to be earned,” you’ll be drawn to people who make you feel like you have to prove your worth.
🧠 If you associate love with inconsistency, you’ll keep chasing emotionally unavailable partners.
🧠 If you fear abandonment, you’ll tolerate mixed signals instead of recognizing them as red flags.
And this is where subconscious alignment is the key to breaking the cycle.
The Solution: Aligning Your Conscious and Subconscious for Empowered Dating
Most dating advice focuses on external behaviors:
💡 “Just walk away!”
💡 “Don’t text first!”
💡 “Make them chase you!”
But if your subconscious beliefs are still wired to seek love in unhealthy ways, these surface-level tactics won’t work.
To truly transform your dating life, you need to:
✔️ Identify and rewrite subconscious beliefs that are attracting unavailable partners.
✔️ Shift your attachment style so that healthy love feels natural.
✔️ Develop emotional clarity so you no longer waste time on mixed signals.
✔️ Heal past wounds so you stop repeating old patterns.
And this is exactly what we do in the 6-Week Signature Relationship Coaching Program.
Take Back Your Power in Dating
If you’re tired of feeling confused, overanalyzing texts, and questioning your worth, this program is for you.
🔹 What You’ll Get:
✅ 6 weeks of deep subconscious reprogramming to break unhealthy patterns.
✅ Hypnosis and guided inner work to heal past wounds.
✅ Personalized strategies to attract emotionally available partners.
✅ Practical tools to navigate dating with confidence.
🚀 Join the 6-Week Signature Coaching Program and step into empowered dating.
If You Can’t Join Right Now, Here’s What You Can Do for Free
I know that not everyone is ready for a coaching program, but you can start shifting your mindset today. Here are 4 powerful steps to take control of your dating life right now:
1️⃣ Stop chasing clarity from others. If someone is sending mixed signals, don’t waste time trying to decode them—shift your focus inward and ask, “Why am I tolerating this?”
2️⃣ Reprogram your beliefs about love. Instead of thinking “love is hard” or “I have to prove my worth,” start affirming:
🔹 “Love comes easily to me.”
🔹 “I am worthy of a secure, committed relationship.”
🔹 “The right person will be clear about their intentions.”
3️⃣ Practice self-hypnosis. Spend 5 minutes daily visualizing yourself in a healthy relationship where love feels easy, safe, and natural.
4️⃣ Set micro-boundaries. If someone is inconsistent, instead of waiting for them to change, practice saying:
🚫 “I value clear communication, and this isn’t working for me.”
🚫 “I need more consistency in my relationships.”
Even small steps can create massive shifts. But if you’re ready for deep, lasting transformation, I’m here to guide you.
Your Dating Life Can Change—Starting Now
You have two choices:
1️⃣ Keep analyzing mixed signals, hoping someone finally prioritizes you.
2️⃣ Take control, reprogram your subconscious, and attract the love you truly deserve.
🚀 Click here to sign up for the 6-Week Signature Coaching Program now.